Keeping the Lines of Communication Open between Parents and Teens
If you are like most parents, you have either read a book about parenting teens, watched a video or taken a class. You probably noticed that one theme kept coming up and that is to keep the lines of communication open with your teen. This is an important part of parenting because being a good parent means you need to be able to effectively communicate with your teen and the only way to achieve this is to have the communication lines open. Here are some tips that will help you do just that.
The teenage years is a time when they feel the urge to be loved. They are trying to cope with their ever-changing sense of identity. It is important that you tell your child you love them and tell them often. Actions also speak louder than words so show them your love as well. You can do this by hugging them (if they are comfortable), celebrating their achievements and forgiving their mistakes.
We are given two ears and just one mouth for a reason and that is to listen more than talking. We need to stop and listen when our teens want to talk. It is important that you are quiet long enough to give your teen the opportunity to be heard.
Teenagers are usually always busy with school, friends, athletics and other activities and interests. However, it is important that you make some time to spend with your teen. Even if this time is short like talking over breakfast or picking them up from soccer practice.
Parents and teens often get into power struggles and both sides think they need to be right. However, let your teen have their own opinions about things and let go of the power struggle. Turn a power struggle into a conversation where both of you win.
It is important, as a parent, that you stop being hypercritical and judgmental of your teen constantly. Say your daughter dyed her hair purple and you hate it. Let them know once and let it be instead of constantly rehashing it over and over. It is important to listen to your teen and be less judgmental in order to have a relationship with your teen based on trust and respect.