What To Do If You Don’t Get Along With Your College Roommate

What To Do If You Don’t Get Along With Your College RoommateThere is no bigger bummer your Freshman year of college, than realizing that you and your new roomie just aren’t going to be BFF’s. You are all moved in, and the “Honeymoon Phase” has officially ended. You and your dorm roommate are only three weeks in to the first semester and you aren’t even on speaking terms. What do you do now?

Talk It Out

Try to have a mature face-to-face conversation with your roomie about the awkwardness/issues you two seem to be having. You don’t have to hang out 24/7, but try to come up with a plan that the two of you are happy with, and find a way to co-exist in your tiny space.

You Might Also Like —> Tips To Make College Move-In Day Simple And Stress-Free

Find Something In Common

Usually when two roomies aren’t jiving, it’s because they are polar opposites. You both have your own friends, your own hobbies, and your own idea of a good time. Invite your roommate out to do something, just the two of you, maybe a dinner or a movie or a walk around campus. Even the most opposite people have to have at least one thing in common. Once you find your shared interest, you will be more on the same wavelength.





Bribe Them

Sometimes a kind gesture or small gift will open the door to a friendship with your roommate. The next time you go to the cafeteria, bring them back something. Heading off campus for coffee? Grad their favorite Cup Of Joe to go. It doesn’t have to be something huge or expensive, just something to show that you are thinking of them or pay attention to what they like.

You Might Also Like —> 6 Items You Don’t Need To Pack For Your College Dorm, Contrary To Popular Belief

Keep your Roomie Drama Off Social Media

9 times out of 10, your issue with your roommate can be worked out. However, if one or both of you take to social media and things get out of hand, someone may say something hurtful that they can’t take back – and then your disagreement could become a full-blown war. Try to handle things like an adult, and be the better person.

Go To Student Housing

If you have truthfully tried everything in your power to get along with your roommate, and it’s just not going to work out, you can head to student housing or speak to your residential advisor about switching rooms. But, remember, there is no guarantee that you won’t wind up moving in to a room with someone even harder to get along with than your first assignment. Besides, isn’t this what college is all about, learning to deal with real life situations, like getting along with people that aren’t the easiest to get along with?

Share your thoughts in the Comments section below, on our Facebook Page,  Follow Our Twitter Account or Head Over To Our Pinterest Page!

18 Comments
  1. Teresa Kunberger says

    I am glad that this is something i never had to go through! I had a child young so dorms was a no go for me!

  2. Tara Pittman says

    I like the bribe one. A simple cup of coffee goes a long way.

  3. Brandy says

    These are great tips – we were fortunate that my daughter and her first college roomie were awesome friends – though she’s had some trials with each of her roomates later on. Good read!

  4. Bill S says

    I was so thankful not to have any issues with my roommates!! These are great tips for dealing with the confrontation that can come with it.

  5. Amy Jones says

    I could’ve really used this post back when I was in college hahah. Hopefully someone else finds it helpful too!!

  6. Krystel @ PlanningThe Magic says

    Everyone has that roommate. My first college roommate was not a bad person she was just not a good fit for and super inconsiderate. I needed this post haha

  7. Melanie Smith says

    Roommates are difficult sometimes. We have to learn how to deal with it and this post is really great for that.

  8. Karlyn Cruz says

    Oh, these are helpful. I will keep this post in case my son have problems in his future college roommates.

  9. Niesha Byln says

    This reminds me of my college days. I have a roommate that so hard to get along with. One time, I offer her to join me in dinner and I am so glad we are best friends until now!

  10. Lisa Hodges says

    That has got to be tough. I think they’ve tried to narrow down common interests, so hopefully that helps.

  11. Bre | Maintaining Me says

    I was lucky and got along with all of my roomates in college. These are some great ideas if you don’t!

  12. Liz Mays says

    It’s a terrible situation when this happens. It happened to my niece and it was a long semester. She was able to switch after that though.

  13. Rachel Mouton says

    This is such a tough situation. I think switching would be the best option tough 🙂

  14. AnnMarie Brown says

    Roommate situations can be hard sometimes and these are great tips for trying to make it work.

  15. Dhemz says

    That would be awkward situation. I sure thin will workout…just got to adjust and talk things out. Thanks for sharing!

  16. CourtneyLynne says

    Great advice!!! Thankfully I didn’t have any issues!

  17. Ann Bacciaglia says

    It would be so hard if you did not get along with your college roommate. My Daughter is living in residence. We are lucky she was able to share her dorm with her friend.

  18. Jessica Simms says

    These are some great tips for new college students who don’t know what to expect when they go away to school for their first time.

Leave A Reply

Your email address will not be published.